Anxiety and Loss of Confidence By Paul David. The best way to regain confidence is to remind yourself of your capabilities, address the obstacles that keep you from feeling confident, and work around those obstacles. It robs you of your personality, robs you of your confidence and robs you of your identity. You may love your spouse a lot, but any marriage or relation may fail for varied reasons. They're working, involved in relationships, and more adventurous about trying new things. Everything that makes relationships work is no more. You lose confidence in yourself and trust in your partner. Understanding how to restore confidence when it dips is an essential skill, and it depends on three core components: attitude, knowledge and experience. This may happen at any time. Such loss of identity can result in increased levels of generalised anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, a loss of self-confidence, social anxiety, isolation, chronic loneliness, all of which threaten our ability to connect with other people. You can also lose your identity through the gradual merging in a relationship. The Root of Overthinking is a Low Self-Esteem Just don’t lose that confidence now that you’re in a relationship. Confidence is a fragile thing, and a big loss can cause you to lose it for days, weeks, or even months. I felt as if I was worthless and had nothing interesting to say. When I was ill, my confidence plummeted. But I’ve noticed that while people might talk about it, they don’t deal with it as it’s happening very often. Marriage is considered stronger than romantic relationships, but the reasons for breaking of both are almost identical. This was a huge one for me. 1) Do you find then when you are talking to other people that you always say WE instead of ME? Because that’ll be the end of it just as quick as it started. It’s a lot easier to lose yourself in a relationship if you aren’t self-aware to begin with. That is what anxiety does to you. Most importantly, it makes you deadlocked. We also stand to lose ourselves in the relationship, rather than maintaining the unique qualities that gave us confidence and drew our partners to us in the first place. I did not see the point to anything and felt as if I just existed. We will discuss the reasons that kill any relationship and make you lose confidence in your spouse. Confidence is even MORE important when you’re actually in a relationship. Now, “losing oneself in a relationship” is a trite phrase thrown around ALL THE TIME by relationship coaches— myself included. The future is no longer about nurturing love and respect; to an over-thinker, it is nothing but a projection of defeat. A relationship won't be considered healthy if you rely on that person entirely for all your wants and needs. 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